How Assuming I’m Selfish Helped My Relationships

A lot of things that don’t matter get said on twitter. A while back, though, I read something that changed my relationships for the better.

 

The Idea

Tim Keller leads a church of over 5,000 people in New York City, a place with its fair share of egos, and perhaps not a culture that screams selflessness. In mid-2014, he tweeted the following, which was then retweeted more than 1000 times! Clearly, there was something that resonated in these words:

How would your quarterly report look?

And just like that, it’s already the end of March! Give yourself a few minutes to reflect on the year you had envisioned, and the year so far. What can you see?

Here are some questions I’m asking myself as we close out the first quarter of the year – perhaps they may be helpful for you too:

Motion, Movement or Momentum

Stuck is not a fun place to be, is it? Routine is one thing, but a feeling of stagnation, of not being able to break through a plateau, can be demoralising.

We instinctively feel the desire – the need, even – to push through and make start making progress again.

When you find yourself in this situation in one or more areas of life, it’s helpful to keep in mind the difference between Motion, Movement and Momentum. 

Truth Is

“Truth through words and ideas to change lives”

That’s my personal mission. My burn statement. It’s what I’m about.

It’s a guide by which I make decisions about what I do with my time; my energy; my life.

To me truth is core, because it changes things; it changes everything. I care deeply, profoundly about our ability to continue to agree that truth matters.

But even before you can believe that truth matters, you have to believe that truth exists.

That truth is.

Developing Yourself and Others

Every single one of us should be intentionally developing ourselves in order to offer our best unique contribution to the world. Those who are leaders should also be trying to do the same for those they are leading.

 

Here’s one way to think about it…