There is one advantage that is available to anyone, requires no investment of time or money, and can radically improve your quality of life.

Gratitude.

This is not to say that cultivating a posture of gratitude is easy. It’s not. It’s difficult. It requires discipline in our thoughts and our emotions.

And yet gratitude that is anchored in healthy and secure identity is, in my experience, all up-side. I have never in my life thought to myself, ‘You know, I think I really just should have approached that situation with a little less gratitude. I think I would have been a lot happier.”

No.

This is a lesson of which I still have to continually remind myself. When I do, these are some of the things I tell myself: