We can only be deliberate about the way we live to the extent that we are deliberate about the way we lead ourselves – including the way we manage our emotions.
A study done in America asked people how many confidants – how many really close friends – they have in their life. 30 years ago researchers asked the same question, and the average answer was three. The next time they asked, it had dropped to zero.
Zero confidants, was people’s most common response.
Modern life steers us towards isolation. We are just so busy juggling all the responsibilities of our lives, that we don’t automatically carve out the margin to nurture meaningful community.
Though we hold in our hand devices that connect us to almost everyone we’ve ever met, there are less and less people with whom we feel truly, intimately known.
Many of us learn the golden rule as kids – something along the lines of ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you’, or ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’
It carries with it the ideal of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes, and then interacting with them in the way we think we would appreciate if we were them.
So what does that have to do with personality types? I would suggest, quite a bit…