The Power of One (Word)

Friends had been telling me how great it was for years. They would choose one word at the beginning of each year, which would serve as a kind of guide and focus for their efforts and journey throughout that coming year. It would remind them where they wanted to focus their energies when the rumble and fog of life made it easy to forget. I thought it was a good idea, but I hadn’t quite made it to the point of sitting down and going through the process of discerning a word I would truly take seriously for myself.

Until this year, that is.

Though I was slow to the ‘one word for the year’ concept, having now decided to implement it, I can see why it is so powerful.

3 Ways to Grow Community

A study done in America asked people how many confidants – how many really close friends – they have in their life. 30 years ago researchers asked the same question, and the average answer was three. The next time they asked, it had dropped to zero.

Zero confidants, was people’s most common response.

Modern life steers us towards isolation. We are just so busy juggling all the responsibilities of our lives, that we don’t automatically carve out the margin to nurture meaningful community.

Though we hold in our hand devices that connect us to almost everyone we’ve ever met, there are less and less people with whom we feel truly, intimately known.

The Gratitude Advantage

There is one advantage that is available to anyone, requires no investment of time or money, and can radically improve your quality of life.

Gratitude.

This is not to say that cultivating a posture of gratitude is easy. It’s not. It’s difficult. It requires discipline in our thoughts and our emotions.

And yet gratitude that is anchored in healthy and secure identity is, in my experience, all up-side. I have never in my life thought to myself, ‘You know, I think I really just should have approached that situation with a little less gratitude. I think I would have been a lot happier.”

No.

This is a lesson of which I still have to continually remind myself. When I do, these are some of the things I tell myself:

Are you living deliberately?

In 1845, 28 year old Henry embarked on a #simplelife experiment that would have surely been an insta sensation had it played out today. He built his own cabin in the forest, on some land owned by a friend, and lived alone there for two years, growing his own food, fishing #local and #sustainable, and, importantly, writing. His journal from these years came to be published as ‘Walden’, and it is from one of its lines that this blog takes its name –

 

The most incredible thing is that the obstacles Henry David Thoreau identifies, the things that keep us from living deliberately and instead catch us up in their unintended cycles, are the same today as they were 120 years ago…

Why You Should Take Control of Your Connectedness

I’ve been travelling for work a bit lately, which means I’ve been out of my normal routines, and have fallen into a familiar trap.

I’ve been overconnected. And I can tell it’s hurting me.

You probably know the signs yourself – and how easy it is to find yourself doing it.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. We have the power to take control of our connectedness – and not the other way around.